Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation. This tactic can be especially dangerous when used in estate planning. When a person is gaslighted, they might make decisions that do not reflect their true wishes.
Connection between gaslighting and undue influence
Gaslighting involves making someone question their own reality, memories or perceptions. Manipulators often use this scheme to gain control over their victims.
In estate planning, gaslighting can be a precursor to undue influence, which occurs when someone exerts excessive pressure on a person to change their will or other estate documents.
For instance, a family member might isolate the victim. They could say, “Your children do not care about you. I am the only one who looks after you.” This isolation can make the victim more reliant on the manipulator, leading to changes in the estate plan.
In Florida, undue influence is a serious legal issue that can invalidate a will or trust. The law acknowledges that vulnerable individuals, including older adults and those with cognitive impairments, may be prone to manipulation.
Protecting your loved one’s interests
Recognizing the signs of gaslighting that may lead to undue influence is essential. This can include:
- Sudden changes in estate plans that benefit the manipulator
- Isolation of the victim from family and friends
- Increased dependence on the manipulator for decision-making
- Expressions of confusion or self-doubt by the victim
- Unexplained changes in the victim’s behavior or personality
If you suspect someone is gaslighting or maliciously influencing your loved one, act quickly. Document any suspicious behavior or changes in estate plans. Keep communication open with your loved one and other family members.
It is advisable to obtain advice from a legal professional right away. They can help prove undue influence and ask the court to invalidate the affected parts of the estate plans.